When Yor Divorce Is Being Contested

A contested divorce is one in which the parties cannot agree, either about getting divorced or about the terms of the divorce, such as the division of assets, allocation of debts, alimony, child support, or the custody of children


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No divorce has ever been considered painless and certainly not easy, even in the rare circumstance of both parties agreeing on every aspect. When there are lingering disputes, or if one spouse does not want to separate, it is called a contested divorce and requires a judge's decision to finalize. Considered far more stressful—and costly—than an uncontested divorce, a contested divorce can prove trying to just about anyone. If you don't want to deal with the stacks of paperwork—or can't stand the idea of any more arguments with your spouse—hiring an accomplished divorce attorney may be the right decision.
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Our years of experience in family law, impressive record of success, and compassionate dedication to each case set me apart from other attorneys. Contact me at The Law Offices of Smith & Messina if you need legal counsel in a contested divorce. Essential Tips To Surviving A Contested Divorce

  • Stay calm. Always remain composed and professional when appearing in court and assessing the situation. No matter how hostile the other party gets, keep your cool.
  • Keep organized. Divorce involves a lot of paperwork and a lot of records. Make sure you stay organized by keeping detailed records of everything and that you can access it easily.
  • Hire a skilled divorce attorney. A skilled divorce lawyer can effectively advocate for you and obtain a favorable outcome that is in your best interests. He or she can also serve as a buffer so you do not have to directly deal with the other party.
  • Don't forget about the children. Remember that divorce can be traumatic to children. Don't speak ill of the other party or try to damage relationships. Focus on helping your children understand the situation and give them as much support as you can.

Reasons A Spouse May Contest A Divorce

Before you even worry about seeking a judge's decision in a contested divorce, it is important to try to reach a private agreement between the two of you. This can save you both countless hours of frustration and potential embarrassment. If the two of you can't reach an agreement on one or more aspects of the divorce, a request for a court date must be filed. Additionally, a settlement process may need to take place before the established court date.


If you and your spouse can't decide ownership of pieces of property, accumulated wealth, or even total debt, the divorce is considered contested. This is common in high asset divorces.

If you and your spouse have a child together and both want to be custodial parents, there is little chance for the divorce to finalize without a judge's official ruling.

Child support and spousal support are often complicated and grounds for contesting the details of a divorce.


No matter your reasons for entering a contested divorce, you shouldn't go in alone or unprepared. With no obligation or cost to you, you can start on the right track to win your case by contacting us at The Law Offices of Smith & Messina today.

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